WE OFFERED HER A RIDE HOME THE NEXT DAY WITH US, PLUS HELPING HER WITH THAT NIGHT´S ACCOMMODATION - HER REACTION WAS NOT CALM NOR CONSTRUCTIVE NOR RESOURCEFUL NOR HELPFUL, AND THEN TURNED INTO NO ANSWER FROM HER AT ALL, SO THERE REMAINED NO MORE WAYS LEFT AVAILABLE FOR US TO HELP HER
We had asked Cecilie from the beginning of our communication
… read more and repeatedly several times during the previous-to-coming communication to come in better and different dates for us, a bit later, since we had a lot to do elsewhere than home (in another job) those particular days, and, on top, last minute, my 95 year old grandma got super super sick and I dearly chose to travel to see her with the child. Cecilie insisted on the dates she had found a good flight for and a good arrangement with her family to take her to airport to come, saying she could happily wait in an airbnb till the day we could host her, and we only then said ok, counting on that flexibility so that it would by no means be a stress for our family (since, I repeat, the timing was already not the ideal chosen by us and meanwhile I learnt I was a few weeks pregnant, needing extra extra cero stress and tons of rest). I nonetheless came back early from my super old and beloved grandma in Madrid (whom I can visit so rarely) in an effort to match Cecilie´s dates and circumstances (she later said she could only sleep in an airbnb x number of days due to financial circumstances) and so we could bring her up home to the mountains with us from "civilisation", which is not our obligation, just a nice detail we could offer and were happy to offer so that she did not have to take the several transportations and walks or taxis up to our super remote place. Upon my arriving back in Málaga from Grandmas visit, Cris and I found ourselves absolutely exhausted, needing deep sleep and rest, and could not do more that evening (in which we would normally pick her up) and asked her kindly if she could book another night where she was, that we could pick her up the next day, since driving up to the mountains in those so tired circumstances was not only unnecessary but also very dangerous for all in the car: falling asleep on the wheel can mean falling down a very high cliff. We were not even us sleeping in a home of ours or family that night in civilisation where we could pick her up, but in a job home, so we could not offer her where to spend that night with us. And we needed a quick and calm solution because what we needed more was to sleep already. When asking her how much was her airbnb so we could take our responsibility in this change, she said it was an incredible high price for us, if I recall right 80 euros that night: no wonder she could only afford x days there... We could not afford that, yet we did offer to pay part of it (the price of a hostal or shared airbnb). Also we searched for other accommodations which were a cheaper price, so she could choose if to move or stay for the night. And within all this is when Cecilie had a reaction (with crying and saying that the trust was broken and that it would need to be built again etc.) that we felt would not fit the calmness and tribe feeling we need up there in the remote paradise where we live and where we truly just have each other, there is no one else. She knew by then that I was few weeks pregnant and needed utmost care and rest, and that both Cris and I needed to attend for the next month very delicate and dedicated paper work with a deadline. Nonetheless the voice and written messages she was sending us then ended us preventing us from the good sleep we needed and the next morning, after having been able to very calmly talk about it as a family Cris and I, we figured it was best for the short and long term calmness of all sides, to not start the adventure up to our mountains together with Cecilie, to preserve her and us from going together into a place so far into nature where so much effort is needed from us to explain everything upon arriving (it is not like normal civilisation living) and where it takes so much effort and logistics from everyone to come back down to "civilisation" in case of things not working, and it was looking like it would not work, and we want to warranty all of you only great experiences up there, and the match needs to be absolutely fantastic for that. And the match test was not passing this test. Among other things we saw she in the reality needed a more fixed structure than the one we could offer in our life naturally, and that she seemed to not understand the priority of rest (and not pushing the body or anyone) in the same way as we did, and that that would bring crashing or disappointment or big stress for one or both sides sooner or later, and we are committed to providing only a wonderful experience, considering that it is a workaway experience what we offer in this site (and help what we need) and not an airbnb lodging with experience nor a travel agency service. We are just a humble family listening to our bodies and souls and to nature and to those who harmonise... making a beautifully tuned song then.
So due to this deep listening of her needs, that rendered so different from what we could offer, we kindly offered to help her find projects in Málaga or Spain that would better fit her schedules and challenges with improvisation/adapting to surprises life brings alone or in a group. In fact we had also before, during our previous to coming contact, offered to help her find other wonderful projects, once, when we learnt her travel timing was a little soon for us, and another time, #redacted text# made it uncertain that things would work out up in the mountains with us. We also offered to help her in many other ways to stay in the country or area enjoying and in a budget now that she had travelled, trusting that all is for the better, that she could have an even better experience than the one she had imagined with us. And we also offered to pick up and pay for the food she had got for herself, #redacted#, we had arranged and agreed with her a very calm workaway stay in which she truly chose her rythm and helped just a little tiny bit each day -and only we chose this because she insisted so so so much on coming, normally we would just have said no no no #redacted#. All this and more we offered her the next morning, lovingly dedicating a lot of time to her, and asking her to please answer us only once she was calm, in order to not create any further drama. And we never received an answer from her, no news, nothing. And today, months later after it all happened, we find she writes this feedback here. I hope it in some way serves all of you who would like to come to help us see us more clearly, what we value, how we act, what we can accept and what we cannot accept, and what we can provide and what we cannot provide, so that you can even more wisely choose the project that best suits you and your very honoured needs, be that ours or not -a 100 % match is always existing somewhere, never lose that trust ; ) go for it : )
#redacted# We cannot underline this enough. Think of it as coming to live in "cave man and cave woman world"... tight tribe needing full bond and presence... all needs to fully function in each unit and in the whole, and as "one", and as "one" with nature too.
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We are truly hoping for you Cecilie that you took and take always the opportunity to live something even more wonderful than expected when something does not turn out exactly like you pictured it, to find the treasure in the change and the gratitude for the care the Universe is giving you by it. We never intended anything different from caring for you in the truest and best ways we knew and we had available.
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